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09/12/2023 10:15 am
here's one for you. Enjoy.
Oh my God, that is my wife's condition, I am crying like a baby!!!
09/12/2023 11:18 am
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Oh my God, that is my wife's condition, I am crying like a baby!!!
I'm sorry to this about your wife. But it touches all of us in some form along life's journey. My wife and I have promised each other that we will always be there for one another, even if we don't know each other anymore. This video really hit home for me, as we've had family members that have dealt with this too. My prayers for you and your wife!
George Schire
Oakdale, Minnesota
09/12/2023 11:24 am
here's one for you. Enjoy.
Oh my God, that is my wife's condition, I am crying like a baby!!!
God bless you and your wife Brush. Prayers for your family!!
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09/12/2023 12:04 pm
Sorry to hear about your wife, Brush. I can relate to your struggle to cope and it is indeed a struggle.
We're going through this with my MIL who has come to live with us for the last year. But she's in her latter stages and has no memories at all. It would be sweet if there were something we could do to stir her mind, but every effort we make is futile and seems to frustrate her all the more. She lost her recent recall about a year ago. We watched her earliest memories fade over the last six months until she no longer has a childhood, family, or any fond memories at all. She no longer recognizes her daughter as anyone other than the woman who cleans her up in the morning and takes her for rides. Kelly has to introduce her to me several times a day. I'm either "that man who just came in" or "a stranger in the room." She is unable to remember where she lived, what her last name is, whether or not she was married, or even whether she has family. Sometimes she wonders why this older woman (Kelly) is caring for her because she's only twenty-two. This particular aspect, not knowing her age, causes incredible distress when she sees an eighty-five-year-old woman in the mirror. There's no ride to familiar places, no familiar faces, no pleasant memories that will help. I take her to Wendy's a few times a week for lunch. Every time we arrive there, she asks, "What is this place? Why are we here?" I buy her a plain hamburger with mustard and a frosty. They're all she will eat. But, when I put the tray in front of her and tell he what these things are, she says, "I've never had anything like this before."
Dementia is an insidious disease that robs folks of everything. I wish these commercials were accurate but they only apply to people in their relatively early stages. As we witness the extended family try to encourage MIL to "remember when..." or say things like, "You remember me, don't you?" we've come to realize that, in the latter stages, efforts like this have more a tendency to antagonize than to stimulate any recall. Our job is to keep her clean and comfortable and ensure she takes her meds.
John Kuvakas
Warrenton, VA
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09/12/2023 2:31 pm
hey Brush......it was always with the best of intent......John
09/12/2023 7:15 pm
Sorry to hear about your wife, Brush. I can relate to your struggle to cope and it is indeed a struggle.
We're going through this with my MIL who has come to live with us for the last year. But she's in her latter stages and has no memories at all. It would be sweet if there were something we could do to stir her mind, but every effort we make is futile and seems to frustrate her all the more. She lost her recent recall about a year ago. We watched her earliest memories fade over the last six months until she no longer has a childhood, family, or any fond memories at all. She no longer recognizes her daughter as anyone other than the woman who cleans her up in the morning and takes her for rides. Kelly has to introduce her to me several times a day. I'm either "that man who just came in" or "a stranger in the room." She is unable to remember where she lived, what her last name is, whether or not she was married, or even whether she has family. Sometimes she wonders why this older woman (Kelly) is caring for her because she's only twenty-two. This particular aspect, not knowing her age, causes incredible distress when she sees an eighty-five-year-old woman in the mirror. There's no ride to familiar places, no familiar faces, no pleasant memories that will help. I take her to Wendy's a few times a week for lunch. Every time we arrive there, she asks, "What is this place? Why are we here?" I buy her a plain hamburger with mustard and a frosty. They're all she will eat. But, when I put the tray in front of her and tell he what these things are, she says, "I've never had anything like this before."
Dementia is an insidious disease that robs folks of everything. I wish these commercials were accurate but they only apply to people in their relatively early stages. As we witness the extended family try to encourage MIL to "remember when..." or say things like, "You remember me, don't you?" we've come to realize that, in the latter stages, efforts like this have more a tendency to antagonize than to stimulate any recall. Our job is to keep her clean and comfortable and ensure she takes her meds.
Thank you JK, sorry about your MIL, at this point my wife speaks seldom and no more than 3 words that usually don't make any sense. Her favorite daughter [out of 4] who is an RN has her 24/7. I am the only other person she recognizes. I take her out to lunch once a week, what a trip.
09/12/2023 8:16 pm
@brushm, cherish those times she knows who you are. They are precious.
John Kuvakas
Warrenton, VA
09/12/2023 10:03 pm
God Bless you all for your patience, understanding and will to take care of your loved ones. 💓
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