I am an orphan as of today.

So sorry for your loss, especially with the additional circumstances. Relationships with parents can be fraught.

Sorry to hear that Joop. My prayers are with you and your mother.

Sad news, Joop. Perhaps your mother was struggling with her illness and not thinking clearly. I any case, don't let a lifetime of sweetness pass with her just because of a very short time of tension. I pray that your grief will, in time, turn into fond but sometimes melancholy memories.

I wish you hope Joop......jB

All the best Joop. Hard times. My sympathies go to you. We are often not completely rational at the end. Do you need an invitation in order to attend?

Prayers going out to you and your mother.

JOOP..I went thru family " issues" with my brother and sister when Mom died. It takes awhile but realize your a decent person, time heals and know you can control your feeling but not others.  If the funeral hasn't happened yet..GO TO IT !!!

Sincere condolences. A couple of bad weeks doesn't outweigh a lifetime of good relationship so focus on the good years you had with your Mother.

Joop....I am so sorry to hear this and please accept my condolences.  I just lost my own mother in December; she was 100 years of age.  In the past 10 years, she struggled with various illnesses.  At times I was a saint.  Unfortunately, other times she despised me and even verbally disowned me a time or two.  Now, I knew these outbursts were due to her condition(s), and I also knew she would eventually reverse her rejections (and fortunately for me, that always happened, right up until the end).

Sadly, your mother didn't have the time to reverse her rejection of you.  I can only recommend what I did with my mother's rejections when they occurred: as soon as I walked away, I hit the "delete" key in my brain did my best to erase it from my memory.  When things returned to normal, and I became a "saint" again, I hit the "save" key in my brain and I now treasure those memories.  Treasure those positive memories of your mother, Joop - and try to forget these last few weeks.  Somehow, I have a strong feeling she would have wanted you to do just that.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.....

Joop, along with so many others here, I'm sending good thoughts out for you.  Do what you think best and remember that best.  Regards, David 

Joop, I am so sorry to hear of your loss and please accept my condolences. Pastor John K. and others here have pointed out the truly correct way to view this, even through the loss and heartache : love, most especially over a lifetime, doesn't go away and remains forever in it's wonderful and universal form. The complexities and frailties of our human existence may complicate things, but the pure and beautiful form of love is what certainly lasts forever.

My condolences are sent to you Joop.

Joop, I’m joining others here to express my sympathies to you.

I lost my mom 8 years ago and when I’d see her it was with a kiss and hug or “what’s he want now?”

so understand your experiences. She passed away at 97.

I have a couple of small windmill models she got in Holland;

I keep them on my kitchen windowsill so I’m reminded of her every day..hang in there my friend.

My sincere condolences Joop. Although not the same circumstances as yours Joop, my last conversation with my beloved grandmother, who bought me up from around 14, was a snapped "Nan you have to stop ringing me all the time, I'm really busy, I'll call you when I get chance, bye". Nan died the next day.

all the best

Geoff